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Working Moms Feel Guilty All the Time

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Working Moms Feel Guilty All the Time Because of Their Childhoods, Says Science

When I grew up, ya know back in 1980’s – the olden days, moms were the ones who stayed home with the kids and handled all of the domestic chores while dad went to work. There was not a time when I came home from school and my mom was not there. That’s just the way it was. As I grew up that began to be less common with my age group. Today finding a mom who stays home with the kids is far and few in between and there are a variety of reasons for that, some personal preference and economic as well – but that’s a different story. The issue today is that a lot of moms feel guilty not being home with their children. Recent studies show guilt many working moms feel is actually brought on by their own childhood experiences.

Research was conducted at Queen Mary University in London. Researchers conducted 148 interviews with 78 different male and female employees from multiple different accounting and legal firms.  Dr. Iona Lupu, co-author of the study said “We are not blank slates when we join the workforce. Many of our attitudes [about work and family] are already deeply ingrained from childhood.” That makes perfect sense. I clearly remember my mother telling my sister and I how she loved her job, but felt that is was her responsibility to stay home with us kids. But like I said earlier, it was much different back when I grew up – especially economically. One female participant in the study stated “I do remember my mother always regretting she didn’t have a job outside the home and that was something that influenced me and all my sisters…. She’d encourage us to find a career where we could work. She was quite academic herself, more educated than my father, but because of the nature of families and young children, she’d had to become this stay-at-home parent.”

The study does not completely get rid of the guilt some working moms feel, but it does provide some great insight as to where those feelings come from. Childhoods have a major impact on our feelings toward our careers -more than we realize.  The “traditional” role of moms has changed dramatically since we were kids and we can’t erase those feelings of guilt, studies like these can help us understand and be more accepting of what motherhood should be.

To read the full article from Cafe Moms….CLICK HERE! 

My Last Firsts (Video)

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Last week, my youngest (who just turned 4) learned how to swim by herself for the very first time!   She was SOOOO excited and SUPER proud of herself!  Of course, I was a “proud mama” as well but (I’m gonna be real with you) I kinda had to fake my happiness…. a little bit.   I couldn’t help but feel sad; it was THE LAST “first time swimming by yourself” experience I was going to have as a mother (I’m done having children).

Anyhoo…  I did a pretty good job at faking it and I wanted to share the “happy” moment with you.  Enjoy!   🙂

~Amber​

How Kids Are Affected By Life With A Single Mom

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Have you ever known a couple that you know is incredibly unhappy together, but stay together for the kids? I think most of us have and we all have our own personal beliefs as to whether that’s actually a very good idea or not. Does it create more stress for the child or children? Are you really fooling anyone… especially the kids?

Past studies have found that single-parent households run by only mothers can make life more stressful for kids. The good news is that research has shown the exact opposite. A new study compared how kids are affected by life with a single mom who chooses to be a single mom with children who are being raised in a traditional family, with two heterosexual parents. Researchers found no differences in the children’s well-being. This is great news for single moms who have been shamed by social media and traditional married couple families. The European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology states children of single mothers are no more likely to suffer later in life than kids raised by a mother and a father, specifically “in terms of parent-child relationship or child development.”

Keep in mind these studies are coming from single moms who have consciously made the decision to be single moms for whatever reason. Maybe they were in dysfunctional relationships and knew this would be the best for their children. Or maybe they have made the decision to be artificially inseminated and plan on raising their child alone? Either way, these new studies are positive news to help any mom or mom to be make her decision.

To read the full article from Romper…CLICK HERE.

Best Maternity Swimsuits

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Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you can’t rock a swimsuit at the beach or a pool this summer! In fact, you should show that beautiful mommy body off and be proud of it!  The days of “showing some skin” are not over just because you are pregnant.

With that said, yes you absolutely can wear a swimsuit. When you get pregnant the days of showing some skin are not over. A lot of women are very hesitant to even think of the word swimsuit while being pregnant. We get so hung up on what we “should” look like. First off, never compare yourself to other people, especially other people who are not pregnant. Your going to have a differnt body than them, there’s no getting around it, but that is not a bad thing. You are pregnant and that’s a beautiful thing! Second – most people are admiring you, not judging you.

Whether you prefer to go conservative and cover up or accentuate your baby bump, you’ll find what your looking for on this list.

To see the list from Moden Families and Fresh Ideas Parenting..CLICK HERE!

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