When you were younger, carefree and childless hittimg the clubs, traveling, setting the world on fire making your millions – did you ever think for one second that you’d put sleep before any of that – especially before sex! Yea right…sleep before sex. You would have thought anyone who said so was crazy right? Well now you know what all of those people with children were taking about now that you have a child. Sleep…oh preciaous sleep. When you have a newborn baby it’s worth more than gold. All you can fantasize about is getting a hotel room someplace and slepping in that warm, comfy bed. No pool, no going out…just sleep.
Dr. Harvey Karp, author of the celebrated parent guide The Happiest Baby on the Block states “Sleep deprivation is the top challenge for families, say 62 percent of the parents surveyed – more so than lack of time (48 percent), money (34 percent), or sex (26 percent). Sleep is the main thing parents miss from their pre-child life, more than time for themselves or sex.” Parent’s average about 5.5 hrs. sleep per night. More than 3/4 of them have not slept a solid 8 hrs. in months.
In the first few months couples are more focused on the baby than themselves. It’s fun at first, but then real life stressors start to set in. Couple that with a serious lack of sleep for both parents and you have got a problem. That’s when the aruing starts, and the lack of attention towards one another – especially when both parents need to return to work after materanty leave. Now you have childcare to worrry about which equates to more bills. It is so important to reconnect with your spouse during this timem, making adjustments along the way. The most important thing is communication. Good communication is the key.
There are things that you can do along the way to help deal with this new lifestyle. Don’t be shy about asking family and friends for help. Most people are more than happy to lend a helping hand. Usually you can’t keep the Grandparents away! Also take turns sleeping. Make arrangements so that you alternate nights when one of you get up and the other one gets to sleep. Unfortunately for the mommy breast feeding cannot be done by dad, but you can pump and have dad feed at night.
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Researchers at Stanford used different labels for vegetables in the cafeteria. And when they called them things like “rich, buttery, roasted SWEET corn,” 25% more students ate it, and also took much bigger portions.
A new study figured out a pretty simple way to trick your kids into eating more vegetables without complaining the whole time. Just jazz up the NAME a little bit . . .
Researchers at Stanford recently spent about a month changing up the signs next to vegetables in the cafeteria. And they monitored how many students ate each vegetable when they called it different things.
They tried boring labels, like “corn” and “green beans.” They also tried things like “vitamin-rich corn” and “reduced-sodium corn.” It didn’t make a huge difference though.
But when they used labels like “rich, buttery, roasted SWEET corn,” 25% more students ate it . . . and the servings they took were 23% bigger.
The recipes never changed. The “rich, buttery” corn was exactly the same as when they just called it “corn.” And it worked the same way with other vegetables too.
So if you make something your kids hate like spinach, try calling it “sweet spinach” and see what happens. With young kids, you can have a little more fun with it if you want, and call it something like “Mom’s Sizzlin’ Sweet Spinach.”
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This mom deserves an award. During the school year, everything is so structured and disciplined. There is little breathing room for you or your children during the school year. The schedules are pretty much set in stone. The times are set when to eat, sleep – almost everything. Now the closer summer gets you start to stress on that, creating new schedules – completely mapping out every activity for the kids and or family before summer is even here. The kids are enrolled in swimming classes, camp has been registered, chores have been assigned, new bedtimes have been made. Wow…I’m already exhaustd just thinking about it. It doesn’t really seem much like a summer “vacation” does it?
This particular mother says…”Unfortunately for my kids, I am not one of those parents. The fliers containing crucial sign-up information for summer sports and other activities got lost amid the 16 tons of crap they brought home on the last day of school. Sure, I want my kids to have an enjoyable break, too. But the beauty of Summer is that it’s a stretch of unscheduled time…Keyword: unscheduled.”
So go ahead and shelf that routine for a few months. Give your children and yourself a break. It will make a great difference in the up coming school year for your kids if they get the break they need. Heck…it’ll be a nice break for you as well. It’s not easy to sticking to all the regiments during the year, let alone during the summer as well. That’s a lot to ask of anyone. As long as they are not running around the house yelling and playing at 1:00 am, give them the opportunity to fall alseep when they are tired. Let them wake up when they want to wake up. Their little bodies know. As the school year gets closer, you can start to gradually ween them back into shape. They may even be totally ready for some structure at that point.
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As a parent it is our job to make sure that we prepare our children for their inevitable journey into the real world for someday when they fly the coop. There are so many things that we think we are just born knowing, but that’s not true at all. At some point, someone somewhere taught us these life skills we have hopefully honed as adults. Probably your parents, or legal guardians as you were growing up. Some of these daily, typical skills sounds so simple and you’ve been doing them for so long that you don’t even think about it as your doing them.
Are you ready to stop helicopter parenting and prepare your kid for life as a young adult? Julie Lythcott-Haims, former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and author of “How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success, says these are 12 important life skills that every child should know before high school.
Make a Meal
You don’t have to stop making meals for your kids entirely, but it’s important for them to feel confident enough to know how to do it. Maybe start with them making breakfast for themselves a couple times a week or on the weekends. Let them help with dinner, or let them make their own lunch for school.
Wake Themselves up on Time
This is a really tough one because it’s rough enough trying to get these kids out of bed banging a stick on a trash can. Now we have to trust that they are going to get themselves up. Again, the best way to do this is to baby step it. Start maybe a couple times a week…not completely letting go of the rains just yet. But make sure that by the time high school rolls around, they should be able to get up and get ready by themselves.
Not only will this be an important life skill, but I guarantee it will show them just how busy you have been washing their clothes every 10 minutes. They will probably stop tossing shirts in the laundry after wearing them once for 3 hours.
This was an exciting one for me when I was a kid. It looked so interesting when my Dad was at the gas station pumping gas into the car. The smells, the cool looking gas pump – not to mention the thought of someday your going to get to drive that car! I don’t think you will have a problem with this one. If you do have a child that has dirty hand or germ phobia’s, assure them with baby wipes and antibiotic hand wash.
“Kids need to learn how to contribute for the betterment of the whole,” she says. “Maybe they have siblings and one is stressed out about something, and the other says, ‘I’ll do your chore for you. Because I see you’re stressed out and you need some help.’ That’s building a sense of it’s not just about me. I can do for others.”
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