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8 Ways Parenting Is Like Dating

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Hopefully while dating someone you don’t encounter too many runny noses, spontaneous vomiting or loud tantrums, but there are definitely similarities between dating and parenting.

For example, you get nervous when you don’t hear from them. That phrase can apply to both dating and parenting. Any parent knows not hearing from their teenager who is supposed to be texting them is not cool. Or how about an overly quiet toddler in the next room? That’s a terribly unsettling feeling that you get in your gut right? Now that you think about it, remember how you felt when that guy said he’d call you a week ago!

If that doesn’t convince you, how about this. One minute, he is your everything. The next minute you want to rip each other’s hair out. Hopefully the reasons aren’t the same, but the feeling usually is.

To read about all of the other similarities at Parenting.com – CLICK HERE!

 

Second-Born Children Are More Likely To Be Criminals

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This is not good news for me. I am second born – let’s read on to see how much trouble I’m in. A recent study shows evidence that second-born children are more likely to end up being trouble makers. Second born children are more prone to trouble at school or to have issues with law enforcement later in life. As a second born child myself, I can’t say that I have any experience with getting in trouble with the law, but getting in trouble in school, I can certainly vouch for.

The research was conducted at MIT, Northwestern and University of Florida ( and a few others) followed thousands of sets of brothers in Denmark and the state of Florida—two extremely different cultures. The studies found that second born children were more apt to rebel against authority figures in both locations. Actually, second-born boys are 20 to 40 percent more likely to rebel in school and enter the criminal justice system compared to first-born boys,  even when we compare siblings. That’s pretty remarkable seeing as how the studies were done in different cultures. Why is this? Authors of the study have theories that this higher risk of delinquency could be due to the fact that second-born children do not receive the one-on-one attention that their older brothers or sisters did. This may be one reason why they act out as a way to get their parents to pay more attention to them.

To read the Full Article from Simplemost.com….CLICK HERE! 

 

Working Moms Feel Guilty All the Time

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Working Moms Feel Guilty All the Time Because of Their Childhoods, Says Science

When I grew up, ya know back in 1980’s – the olden days, moms were the ones who stayed home with the kids and handled all of the domestic chores while dad went to work. There was not a time when I came home from school and my mom was not there. That’s just the way it was. As I grew up that began to be less common with my age group. Today finding a mom who stays home with the kids is far and few in between and there are a variety of reasons for that, some personal preference and economic as well – but that’s a different story. The issue today is that a lot of moms feel guilty not being home with their children. Recent studies show guilt many working moms feel is actually brought on by their own childhood experiences.

Research was conducted at Queen Mary University in London. Researchers conducted 148 interviews with 78 different male and female employees from multiple different accounting and legal firms.  Dr. Iona Lupu, co-author of the study said “We are not blank slates when we join the workforce. Many of our attitudes [about work and family] are already deeply ingrained from childhood.” That makes perfect sense. I clearly remember my mother telling my sister and I how she loved her job, but felt that is was her responsibility to stay home with us kids. But like I said earlier, it was much different back when I grew up – especially economically. One female participant in the study stated “I do remember my mother always regretting she didn’t have a job outside the home and that was something that influenced me and all my sisters…. She’d encourage us to find a career where we could work. She was quite academic herself, more educated than my father, but because of the nature of families and young children, she’d had to become this stay-at-home parent.”

The study does not completely get rid of the guilt some working moms feel, but it does provide some great insight as to where those feelings come from. Childhoods have a major impact on our feelings toward our careers -more than we realize.  The “traditional” role of moms has changed dramatically since we were kids and we can’t erase those feelings of guilt, studies like these can help us understand and be more accepting of what motherhood should be.

To read the full article from Cafe Moms….CLICK HERE! 

Mother punishes neighbor’s son by shaving his head, writing ‘pervert’ on his forehead

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In this day and age, looking at someone crossed eyed will get you in a lot of trouble. When I saw the title of this article I could not believe my eyes! Punishing your own child is hard enough these days. There is always someone looking or listening, just dying to get it on YouTube. What this mother did is unbelievable.

In Eureka MO, a mother punished her neighbor’s kid by shaving his head and writing pervert on his head with a felt tip pen. The police say they have never had a case like this before. According to police, the woman’s daughter was spending the night with the boy’s sister. Police say the boy went into the room where the girls were pulled the neighbor girl’s hair. When she sat up, the boy told police he accidentally hit her in the chest. The little girl, went home and told her mom she’d been touched inappropriately by the boy.

Lt. Dave Wilson of the Eureka Police Dept. stated – “The day the 9-year-old boy went to the neighbor’s house looking for his sister and the mother of the young girl who was upset with the young boy pulled him into the apartment, shaved his head,”

That’s not all. Police say the woman wrote the word ‘pervert’ with a felt tip pen on the boy’s forehead. Now that mother could face assault charges on a minor.

“She certainly admitted to the accusations and obviously regrets her decision,” says Wilson.

To read the entire article from ABC 10 News

– CLICK HERE. 

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