My SD Moms OMG…what kind of a article is this? Hopefully, a very helpful one. Most parents find it extremely uncomfortable when they find out that their kids start masturbating. Lets face it, most people find
the word masturbate terribly uncomfortable and inappropriate. I could say it’s a natural, healthy part of life, but that would be cliche’ and you have heard it 100 times before. Oh what the heck, I’ll say it anyway. Masturbating is a natural, normal part of life, even for your kids. It’s is also healthy and should not be discouraged even with our children.
Most children start to become aware of their genitals right around the age of 6. I mean they always knew they had genitals, but by the age 6 they are starting to realize that their genitals can actually bring them feelings of pleasure. Other kids not in this majority start to really get interested in the 10-13 year range. Whatever the age you notice your kids starting to experiment with masturbating, it is time to have open discussions on when, where and how this activity is appropriate.
When comes to appropriate times, personal space is very important to cover. Some parents do not allow locked bedroom doors when it comes to their kids. Although they are our kids and we want nothing but the best for them, it’s still absolutely necessary to respect their privacy. They deserve and need privacy just like anyone else. Let them know, that even though they may not lock their doors behind them, you will never just barge in to their room when the door is closed. They are not allowed to ignore you, but you will always knock before entering. That will let them know that you for one trust them and for another that they are not doing anything wrong in there. They are merely having some one on one time with themselves…and that’s okay. It’s normal and 100% healthy for them to do so. Inform them that it goes both ways in fact. When your feeling it’s time for a little “me” time, assuming they are old enough, let them know your door is always open for them as well, but they need to respect your privacy as you do theirs. Always knock before entering and wait for the coast is clear.
The other major concern is “Do I respond differently to boys than girls?” Some parents think it’s perfectly natural for boys to masturbate, but when it’s about their daughter…HECK NO! This may have a lot to do with religion, cultural bias that we hold unconsciously or the way our parents raised us. The truth is, after chatting with many parents, their daughter we the ones to first start exploring their bodies, rather than their sons. It is no more appropriate for boys to masturbate than it is for girls. Try to avoid introducing your own hang ups with your kids – for their sake.
The number one thing we do not want to do is make our kids feel uncomfortable about something that they should never make them feel that way. We don’t want start planting seeds in them that will effect them their whole lives. Most importantly be open with discussion, never discourage it. Let them know that the word masturbation is not the manifest of the devil himself and as long as they are not doing it at the dinner table, in the grocery store or other public places where it would not be appropriate, they are normal, healthy people that have nothing to be ashamed of.
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